March 27, 1008

Communication is easy until you have a disagreement. So, how do we process conflicts without arguing? As I was writing my book, The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted, one of the great discoveries I made was the awesome power of listening. Most of us are far better at “making our point” than in “getting the point” of the other person. Listening has to do with trying to look at the world through the other person’s eyes. It’s not that difficult if you try.

Once you can truthfully say, “I think I understand what you are saying, and it makes sense.” Then you can say, “Let me tell you how I’m thinking, and see if it makes sense to you” Two people who listen long enough to “affirm” each other, can then find a win-win solution.

Today's A Growing Marriage Daily content has been written by Dr. Gary Chapman and is based on the book Dr. Gary Chapman On the Marriage You've Always Wanted by Dr. Gary Chapman. Published by Moody Publishers, copyright 2005. Used by permission.